The Essence of Change
Change is a natural part of life from various perspectives, including the physical and spiritual. It is a common normality that the human psyche on superficial and complex levels desire maintenance of the status quo. Change can manifest itself into negative forms of distress and positive forms of curative eustress. However, a fluctuation away from the comfort zone generates anxiety and subliminal/covert trepidation because it swiftly catapults one into the unknown and uncontrolled. Thus Christians are commanded to walk by faith and not tangible sight.
One researcher and theologian postulates and pontificates that the single strongest desire of the individual is control: control of life, circumstances, situations, institutions, others, and destiny. However, such a trudge is futile, fruitless, and full of fatigue because of its illusive nature. Regardless of the fear that comes with the essence of change, change is inevitable, positive, natural, healthy, and without earthly prevention. In terms of dealing with grief, the concept and process has been defined as the refusal to accept what has happened. Therefore, even though grief has its appropriate place in the healing process, the essence and reality of grief is laced with the notion of struggling with the acceptation of the sudden change. In that formation, full acceptation of any form of loss negates or removes grief. Yet and still, it is the essence of change that we grapple, wrestle, and do combat with. The essence and struggle of change is so unconscious and deeply entrenched in cultural forms of denial, the discussion and analysis is difficult to broach.
Because of the slippery nature of the concept a common statement is, “I want to change but I do not know how.” In brief the words and formula of the man in John 4:43-54 provides and elementary equation for spawning change. As the man wanted his son healed (changed), he did four things. 1) He acknowledged change was necessary, 2) He went to Jesus, 3) He besought the Son of God, 4) He made his request and desire for change pointed and specific.
Change is a continuous part of life that must be approached and tackled with skill, desire, and most importantly prayer, faith, and courage. To deny or ignore change is to deny growth. Remember, you are the Clay in the Potter’s Hands. God has paved a way to save you today!